June 2020 - Relationships Australia Queensland

Tips for Separating with Kids

Posted on June 30, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

Separation can be an upsetting time for everyone involved.

Separating or divorcing with kids brings its own unique challenges as you help them make sense of big changes in the family. Children might feel confused, sad, or even angry. But there are ways you can help them better understand and cope.

Relationship Counsellor Shirley Hussie explains, “It’s not always parents separating that causes the psychological distress for children, but the way in which parents separate.”

With the right support, you can make your child’s wellbeing your top priority and reduce their stress and pain during this unsettling time.

How to Talk to Kids about Separation

While kids need to know their parents are separating or getting a divorce, they generally don’t need to know why.

When telling your kids about your divorce or separation, it’s important to keep it simple, stick to the facts, and reassure them that they are in no way responsible.

“Reassure the children they are loved, the separation is in no way their fault, and they will continue a relationship with both parents,” Shirley advises. “There is no rulebook – what works for one may not work for another. However, knowing they are loved and safe is fundamental.”

Some things to keep in mind when talking to your kids about your separation might include:

If you can, try to agree with your ex-partner in advance on an explanation for your separation or divorce so you’re both on the same page and don’t confuse your kids
Don’t blame, criticise, or belittle the other parent in front of your kids
Keep your explanation clear, simple, and appropriate to their age and stage of development
Reassure them that they have not done anything wrong and that there is nothing they can do to get their parents back together
Tell them that you both love them and they will continue to have a relationship with both parents
Address any practical issues (e.g. changes to routines, living arrangements)
Give them opportunities to ask questions and express how they’re feeling.

Helping Kids through Divorce or Separation

“Parents separating has a profound impact on children,” Shirley explains. “They can feel confused, responsible, angry, lost, sad, lonely, and hurt.”

You can help your children adjust to their new circumstances with these practical tips.

Do:

Try to maintain as much consistency in their routines as you can
Introduce any changes to routines as gradually as possible
Provide reassurance with affection and by telling them “I love you”
Protect them from any conflict between you and the other parent
Encourage discussion about their feelings and concerns
Help them identify their feelings and let them know it’s normal and OK to feel that way
Give them opportunities to hear about other children who have experienced separation/divorce
Spend time strengthening your parenting skills
Support their relationship with the other parent
Ask caregivers/teachers to let you know if they notice changes in your child’s behaviour.

Don’t:

Lean on them for emotional support
Blame or speak negatively about the other parent in front of them
Use your child to play ‘messenger’ between you and the other parent
Ask your child to ‘spy’ or report back to you after spending time with the other parent
Give your child responsibilities that are inappropriate to their age (e.g. too many household responsibilities).

“Let them continue to be children and have fun,” says Shirley. “This is not their burden to carry.”

If you notice significant changes in your child’s behaviour, such as grief, crying, withdrawing, aggression, physical complaints (e.g. headaches, stomach aches), changes in sleeping or eating patterns, it may be a sign your child isn’t coping during this tough time.

You can find more advice to assist your children through your separation in the helpful booklet What About the Children?.

Learn about Relationships Australia QLD’s separation support services here.

If you’re recently separated or thinking about separating, you might find our separation checklist helpful.

How to Help a Friend with Anxiety

Posted on June 26, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

It’s hard to see someone you care about struggle – especially if you don’t know what to say or how to help.

Anxiety can be confusing for those who haven’t experienced it. You might wonder where their feelings are coming from. You might think they don’t have anything to worry about. You might wish they could just take a deep breath and calm down. But anxiety is a mental health condition that can’t be willed away or simply switched off.

Anxiety is the most common mental health condition in the country. Statistics show over a quarter of Australians will experience an anxiety disorder at some stage of their life.

Like with most mental health conditions, support from friends and family plays a significant role in managing symptoms. If you’re not sure how to be there for your friend or loved one, make a start with these tips on how to help someone through anxiety.

Learn About Anxiety

We all worry or feel anxious from time to time. These feelings are a normal response to stressful situations such as changing schools, losing a job, or fighting with a partner.

But for people with anxiety, it doesn’t have to take a stressful event to provoke these feelings. Anxiety causes worry and fear that something bad will happen most of the time. Your friend might feel stress and dread in everyday situations, and find it hard to cope with everyday life.

Anxiety is different for everyone, but uncontrollable and excessive worry is one of the main characteristics of this mental illness. If you want to better understand your friend’s experience, try gently asking them to help you understand how they’re feeling.

There are several different types of anxiety conditions, and the most common include:

Generalised anxiety disorder
Social anxiety disorder
Panic disorder
Agoraphobia
Specific phobias.

You can learn more about the different types of anxiety here.

Listen and Validate their Feelings

You don’t need firsthand experience with anxiety to understand that it’s a tough thing to go through. Let your friend know you’re there to support them, and acknowledge that their experience must be hard.

Some people with anxiety might be hesitant to open up because of the stigma around mental health. They might be embarrassed about how they’re feeling. Or maybe it just seems too hard to describe their anxiety to someone who isn’t familiar with the condition.

Make them feel comfortable to talk by letting them know you’re there to listen without judgement or questioning.

Avoid Dismissive Phrases

It can take a lot of bravery to open up about intense feelings and mental health. If your friend has built up the courage to talk about their anxiety, be mindful of how you respond.

Avoid using dismissive phrases that invalidate their feelings or make them feel judged or pressured. This might include:

“You’re overreacting”
“It’s all in your head”
“There’s nothing to be anxious about”
“There’s no point worrying”

While it may be tempting to try and cheer them up, this can invalidate their feelings and make them feel alone. If you’re not sure what to say, try simply listening and reassuring them that you’re there to help them through it.

Gently Challenge Their Thoughts

There might come a time when some gentle challenging can help your friend change their perception of a situation – without invalidating their anxiety.

For example, if they’re worried they’re going to perform poorly in their work presentation, remind them of past successes when they’ve done well. Ask them what the evidence is that their negative thought or fear is true, and if there’s a more positive, realistic way to look at the situation.

When approached with empathy and sensitivity, a bit of challenging can help stop a downward spiral of catastrophising in its tracks.

Do the Things You Enjoy

If every conversation you have is focused on their anxiety, you might find yourself feeling more like a therapist than a friend. Continue doing the things you love together, whether it’s going to the cinema, the beach, or a concert. Fun activities can be a welcome distraction from anxiety and rumination.

Research shows humour can help deal with stress and anxiety, so if your loved one is having a tough time, don’t underestimate the power of a good stand-up show or comedy film on Netflix.

Encourage Them to Seek Help

While it’s important to be there for loved ones, there’s only so much you can do to help. A mental health professional will have a deeper understanding of anxiety and be able to provide coping mechanisms for your friend’s specific circumstances.

Our professional counsellors are experienced with anxiety, depression, and other mental health concerns. Learn more about our counselling services and how to book an appointment here.

Discover our tips to help a loved one with depression in this helpful article.

10 Life Lessons We Learnt During COVID-19

Posted on June 25, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

The coronavirus has turned our world upside-down in ways we could have never imagined.

But along with the disruption and uncertainty, the past few months have presented an opportunity to adapt and learn. Like with most tough times, self-isolation has a few unexpected silver linings – from more time with family to saving some extra cash.

We asked some of the RAQ team to share the positive lessons they’ve learnt during COVID-19.

I learnt to embrace the art of slowing down

“I’ve been getting back to basics and enjoying the simple pleasures life on slow-mode has to offer. I’ve absolutely loved spending time in my garden and growing herbs and fresh greens. Which of course leads to being able to get creative in the kitchen making delicious, fresh, wholesome meals while sipping fresh lemon balm tea and having the time to savour every mouthful.”

– Shirley, Family and Relationship Counsellor

I learnt how great kids are at making their own fun

“Not being able to go out and ‘do things’ meant that we had to make do with what we had. We used toilet rolls for craft and built forts. We talked more and I got to show them new things. The nicest thing is that my kids learnt to play together without their parents. I feel more relaxed not having to ‘entertain’ them, instead letting them figure out what they’re going to do with their own time.”

– Jesse, Program Manager

I learnt to take pleasure in preparing meals for loved ones

I’ve enjoyed having more time to get into the kitchen and prepare meals for my family. We usually eat out at least a couple of times a week, but with that not an option, I’ve remembered there’s real pleasure in thoughtfully preparing food at home and sharing it with loved ones. I’ve been able to involve my 2.5-year-old in some of the process, which she enjoys so much that I don’t even mind the added clean up!

– Lauren, Communications Manager

I learnt more about the strengths of my relationship

Since both my partner and I have been working from home for several months now, I was concerned as to what effect that would have on our relationship. However, a positive life lesson learnt during COVID-19 was that our love is stronger than a pandemic, that we have enjoyed our company more and more, and that we got to see each other’s work values, ethics and structure in a new way. I am excited to use the things I have learnt from him in a post-COVID-19 world.

– Ryan, Gambling Help Services Counsellor

I learnt to take stock of my spending habits

Pre-coronavirus, I was accustomed to tapping my card for unnecessary conveniences (AKA snacks) every day. These thoughtless purchases quickly added up to take a decent chunk out of my income. The last few months have allowed me to take stock of my spending habits and budget better to save for the important things.

– Adrien, Digital Marketing Coordinator

I learnt how important connecting with my family is

Even though we have been together far more than ever before, we’ve had to commit to finding pockets of genuine quality time with each other. It was a big discovery that the solution to being together all the time was spending even more time as a family, but it’s been really lovely forging even stronger ties through a period where we’ve needed to really lean on each other.

– Caitlin, Business Transformation Engagement Manager

I learnt to pause to enjoy nature

I learnt to take a few minutes away from my day-to-day activities to pause, go to my balcony, and admire the views of nature. Now I start my day with an awesome view and my favourite cup of coffee.

– Aniket, Web Developer

I learnt to throw myself into new challenges

During COVID, I’ve found myself with a lot more free time than I’ve had in the past. One of the most rewarding ways I’ve been spending that time is taking up new hobbies. I’ve been teaching myself to play guitar, and there’s nothing more relaxing than sitting out in the sun at the end of a long day and playing a little bit better than I did yesterday.

– Kristin, Marketing Communications Officer

I learnt to build motivation cues in the home office

Working consistently at home on my own meant I had to find different ways to keep up my motivation. One way I did this was how I designed my home office setup. Since I like a standing desk, I used our family games like Monopoly, LIFE, and Pirateology to make a safe, fun work place that gave me more inspiration. I also mixed it around if I had a project that needed a special flavour, like adding in the games of Battleships or Dixit if I was writing a funding proposal.

– Helen, Regional Manager

I learnt how adaptable people can be

The biggest thing I’ve learnt is that our clients are so adaptive, agile, and flexible. This has been a huge change and overall they’ve responded to our change in service delivery very positively.

– Sue, Head of Operations

Curious how COVID-19 workplace changes have impacted Aussies’ mental health? Find out here.

Effects of Domestic Violence

Posted on June 24, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

Domestic and family violence has a significant impact on the health and wellbeing of survivors and witnesses.

The effects of domestic violence go beyond physical marks and injuries. The mental and emotional consequences can endure long after bruises have healed, and even after the abusive relationship has ended.

Every form of domestic and family violence can have considerable immediate and long-lasting impacts. Physical, psychological, sexual, financial, and all other types of abuse can be just as damaging to the health and wellbeing of survivors and witnesses.

While the impacts of domestic violence vary widely from person to person, these are some of the common effects of domestic violence.

If you believe you or your children are in immediate danger, please call 000.

Physical Effects of Domestic Violence

Physical abuse such as hitting can lead to injuries and marks, but it can also have indirect impacts on survivors’ physical health. Even domestic abuse that doesn’t involve physical violence can lead to serious physical health issues for survivors.

Some physical impacts of domestic abuse might include:

Bruises
Scratches or cuts
Red or purple marks at the neck
Sprained or broken wrists/other bones
Chronic fatigue
Shortness of breath
Fainting
Headaches
Muscle tension
Involuntary shaking
Changes in eating and sleeping patterns
Sexual dysfunction
Menstrual cycle or fertility issues (in women).

Mental and Emotional Effects of Domestic Violence

The trauma of domestic and family violence can result in ongoing mental and emotional impacts for survivors. These mental and emotional effects can last long after the abuse ends and can impact subsequent relationships.

Research shows survivors of domestic abuse are three times more likely to suffer from mental illness such as depression, anxiety, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder.

Mental and emotional impacts of domestic violence might include:

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), including flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety, and uncontrollable thoughts
Depression, including prolonged sadness
Anxiety and stress
Low self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness
Suicidal thoughts or attempts
Shame and embarrassment
Increased likelihood of alcohol and drug misuse
Hopelessness about the present and the future
Inability to trust in other relationships.

Effects on Children Who Witness Domestic Violence

Exposure to domestic and family violence can have long-lasting, challenging impacts on a child, even if they haven’t experienced the violence firsthand. These effects might include:

Anxiety and stress
Depression
Fearfulness
Changes in eating and sleeping patterns
Headaches
Fainting
Inability to trust
Trouble concentrating
Relationship problems
Academic problems
Reckless behaviours (e.g. drug and alcohol misuse).

Children who witness violence between parents/caretakers may also be at greater risk of using violence in their future relationships.

You can learn more about the types of domestic and family violence, how to create a safety plan, and where to find help here.

RAQ offers a range of counselling and support services for people affected by domestic and family violence and those who use power and control within their families. Learn more about these services and how to access them here.

Support Contacts

1800RESPECT: 1800 737 732

DVConnect Womensline: 1800 811 811

DVConnect Mensline: 1800 600 636

Sexual Assault Helpline: 1800 010 120

Kids Help Line: 1800 55 1800

Lifeline: 13 11 14

If you believe you or your children are in immediate danger, please call 000.

10 Steps to Body Positivity

Posted on June 22, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

We’re hearing a lot about body positivity lately. Celebrities are calling out photoshop for promoting unattainable standards. Influencers are embracing their ‘flaws’ and celebrating their real and raw form, sans filter.

Change is in the air. But even with this social movement of body positivity, it’s not always easy to maintain a positive body image – especially if you’ve spent years criticising yourself.

If you’re wondering how to improve your body image and shift to a healthier mindset, these steps might help you feel more comfortable and confident in your own skin.

1. Appreciate what your body can do

Most of us are lucky enough to have able bodies that get us where we need to go and allow us to do the things we enjoy. From walking and running to dancing and hugging your dog, our bodies have done a lot for us over the years. Count your blessings and celebrate everything your body can do for you.

2. Make a list of things you love about yourself

We’re all guilty of focusing on our ‘flaws’ when we look in the mirror. It’s normal to have body hang-ups, but giving all your energy to these physical ‘imperfections’ can magnify them and make you feel even more self-conscious.

Instead, make a list of all the things you like about your appearance, and keep it somewhere you’ll see it every day – like on your bedroom mirror or inside your day planner.

3. Unfollow social media accounts that make you feel bad about yourself

Social media can be a great way to stay connected, but it can also leave you feeling less than. An American study revealed that 87% of women and 65% of men compare their bodies to images they see on social and traditional media.

If you spend time comparing yourself to unrealistic beauty standards on social media, it might be time to reconsider why you’re accessing that content and whether it’s worth feeling down on yourself after scrolling.

4. Seek out social media accounts that reinforce positive self-image

While social media cops a lot of criticism for promoting an unhealthy body ideal, it can also positively impact body image. You can curate your social media to follow accounts that set out to empower users and inspire self-acceptance.

Recent research found that “brief exposure to body-positive Instagram posts resulted in improved body image and mood in young women, compared to idealised and appearance-neutral posts.”

Seeking out body-positive accounts may help boost your body confidence.

5. Challenge negative thoughts and self-talk

Negative self-talk can have toxic and long-lasting effects on us. And while we may not be able to banish our inner critic overnight, we can take steps to challenge and minimise negative thoughts over time, such as:

Recognise when you’re being hard on yourself. If you wouldn’t say that to someone you care about, why would you say it to yourself?
Ask yourself if your thoughts are factual or just based on your interpretation and how you’re feeling in that moment.
Replace the bad with some good by shifting focus to the things you like about yourself, the great chat you had with a friend recently, or the weekend plans you’re looking forward to.

6. Wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself

No outfit should be off limits if you feel great in it. Your clothes should make you feel comfortable and confident, whatever your body shape. Just as there are endless body shapes, there are endless clothing items that are designed to enhance them.

Find clothes that help you express yourself and make you feel good about how you look.

7. Treat your body with some self-care

Show your body some gratitude and treat yourself to a pedicure or new haircut. A bit of pampering can go a long way for your confidence, and who doesn’t love an excuse to indulge a little?

Self-care activities such as massages and yoga can help reduce stress and anxiety as well as help you maintain good physical health and body image. Win-win!

8. Accept compliments

Do you meet compliments with a grunt or a rebuttal? Accepting praise can be hard for a few reasons. Research shows that while 88% of people associate recognition with a feeling of being valued, 70% also associate it with embarrassment.

Our knee-jerk reaction of refusing a compliment also refuses us the mental health benefits of receiving positive feedback. It may feel unusual at first, but try saying thank you next time someone gives you a compliment. You might find it improves your relationship with yourself and with the person offering you praise.

9. Find a workout you love

We’ve all heard the science behind how exercise makes us happy. Moving every day can benefit your mood, sleep, and even your memory and learning. Not to mention, seeing the results of regular exercise can greatly improve your self-esteem.

Find a workout you love – whether it’s simply going for a walk or following a workout on YouTube – and feel the mental and physical post-exercise boost for yourself.

10. Look at yourself as a whole person

It’s important to see yourself as more than what you see in the mirror. Instead of solely judging yourself by your physical attributes, look at yourself as a whole person with wonderful qualities your friends and family love you for.

Want to talk to someone about your relationship with your body? Our counsellors have experience with a range of topics, including body image. Learn more about our confidential counselling services.

Study Results: COVID-19 is Making Us Drink More and Text Less

Posted on June 19, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

Has the coronavirus outbreak impacted your mood? How about your physical health, or how often you drink alcohol?

New research has found that self-isolation and restrictions related to COVID-19 have changed a lot for Australians’ lives.

Many of us have experienced feelings of anxiety and loneliness since the outbreak. Some have enjoyed the slower pace of life. And some want to continue social distancing when this is all over.

The coronavirus has impacted us all in one way or another. These survey findings reveal just how drastically our feelings, behaviours, and relationships have changed over recent months.

We’re anxious and lonely

A fear for our physical safety and directions to self-isolate are a recipe for anxiety and loneliness.

Over 55% of respondents reported increased feelings of anxiety or nervousness since COVID-19, while 45% of respondents reported increased loneliness.

Over 48% reported an increase in feelings of depression or low mood, and over a third (34%) reported poorer mental health overall. 7% reported an improvement in mental health, and 41% reported no change to their mental health during the outbreak.

Reported concerns varied from health and social to economic and financial.

“My anxieties are about the long-term impact of the pandemic economically and politically as well as worries about family overseas,” one respondent elaborated.

“I live alone and have been working from home for 5 weeks. I’m lonely and sad but feel guilty for being upset because I still have a job and nothing is “wrong”,” explained another.

We’re drinking more

Have you found yourself reaching for your favourite drop a little more often than usual? You wouldn’t be the only one.

Almost a third of respondents (28%) reported an increase in drug or alcohol consumption since COVID-19, while 37% reported no changes. 9% reported a decrease in drug and alcohol consumption, which could be due to the closure of bars and pubs.

When asked about physical health in general, 29% reported an increase in poor physical health, while 18% reported a decrease, and 43% reported no change.

We’re calling instead of texting

Technology has saved the day for friends and family separated by social distancing measures. But you might be surprised to see the stats on our most-used communication methods.

Phone calls (59%) and video chats (57%) have been the most popular ways to stay in touch from a distance, while texting and smartphone apps (e.g. What’sApp and Facebook Messenger) came in at 38%.

Who would’ve thought we’d get so comfortable with video conferencing?

“FaceTime has been a blessing but not nearly the same as seeing our grandchildren in person,” commented a respondent.

But even with all these forms of communication at our fingertips, some of us are choosing to isolate ourselves during this tough time. The survey showed 7% of people aren’t staying in touch at all.

“I’m withdrawing. Communicating through media is draining,” a respondent stated.

We’re enjoying activities at home together

It’s not all doom and gloom. Many of us have been making the most of our time holed up at home with our loved ones (except for the 22% of survey respondents who reported that they live alone).

35% of respondents have enjoyed engaging in activities with their partners or family members, such as cooking, gardening, doing puzzles, and watching movies.

18% reported exercising with their family members, mostly in the form of daily walks or playing outside with the kids.

For some households, a bit of alone time has helped them get through.

18% reported that giving each other space and partaking in independent activities was working well for their family.

We’re not ready to give up the slower pace

The coronavirus giveth, and the coronavirus taketh away. Some of us have adapted to the lifestyle changes COVID-19 has forced on us, and we don’t want to give those up when things go back to ‘normal’.

When asked what they’d like to keep doing, most respondents (30%) agreed they wanted to maintain the slower pace brought on by the pandemic. 17% said they wanted to continue with the increased exercise they’d been engaging in during COVID-19, and another 17% said they’d like to continue enjoying more recreational activities.

While the coronavirus had us physically distancing, it helped bring many of us together in other ways. 15% of respondents reported wanting the increased compassion, relating, and connecting to continue.

“The level of connection and intimacy grown during this time is wonderful. I hope to keep it,” one respondent commented.

14% of respondents agreed they wanted to continue working from home, with reduced commuting and increased flexibility being the most common reasons.

If you’re having a hard time at the moment, we’re here to offer some extra support. Discover our counselling services for individuals, couples, and families.

You can read the full survey report here.

50 Fun Things to Do as a Family

Posted on June 18, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

How are you keeping your kids entertained these school holidays?

Some days call for hours of Disney+. But there are others where you want to make the most of your time together with child-friendly things to do as a family.

We’ve compiled a list of our favourite things to do with kids to share adventures – big and small – and make memories that last a lifetime.

Nothing against Nemo, but we think these fun family activities will be your kids’ new favourite things to do during the school holidays.

1. Visit your local library

Libraries offer endless new and exciting stories to take home, and little ones will love having their own special library card.

2. Have a family games night

Who doesn’t like Go Fish or Connect Four? Add some friendly competition with prizes like chocolates or extra TV time for the kids.

3. Set up a lemonade stand in your driveway

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade – then sell it to your neighbours for a small profit.

4. Bake cookies or cupcakes together

Sugary baked goods are the stuff of childhood dreams. Have fun with novelty cookie cutters and decorative icing pens.

5. Go on a picnic

Make some sandwiches or grab some takeaway and head to your favourite park or beach to get some fresh air.

6. Visit a farm

Take your kids to pat some baby farm animals and learn where fresh produce comes from. Families Magazine lists some great farms near Brisbane here.

7. Plant a herb or veggie garden

Get your hands dirty and spend a day in the garden planting your favourite herbs and veggies. Imagine how excited your little ones will be when it’s time to harvest!

8. Create collages from old magazines

If no one has opened those magazines on your coffee table for months, why not repurpose them for some arts and crafts? You could cut letters out to spell out your names or make a vision board of your favourite things.

9. Make tie-dye t-shirts

Give an old t-shirt a new look with some funky tie-dye. There are endless tutorials for tie-dying t-shirts, like this one from Parents.

10. Film a family music video

Every budding superstar will jump at the chance to dress up and perform their favourite song. Plus, catching it on film will give you arsenal for their 18th or 21st birthday.

11. Build a fort in the living room

Ah, the quintessential rainy day activity. Living room forts are best enjoyed with lots of cuddly blankets and pillows, and plenty of good snacks.

12. Go fishing

You don’t have to be a family of avid fishermen to enjoy casting a line. A day on the water is always fun, even if you leave empty-handed.

13. Make a mural with chalk

Chalk is a great go-to for affordable family fun. Collaborate on a mural on the driveway or footpath. The best part is, you can hose it off and try again tomorrow.

14. Do a science experiment

Can you remember the first time you witnessed a baking soda and vinegar ‘volcano’ in all its glory? Gift that experience to your kids these school holidays.

15. Visit a national park

You can add an educational element by downloading a plant-identifying app like PlantSnap – it’s like Shazam for plants.

16. Make homemade pizzas

The only thing more fun than eating pizza is making it. Grab your favourite toppings and make an afternoon of it. Extra points for making your own dough!

17. Have a water balloon/water pistol fight

If the weather and the water restrictions permit, a good old-fashioned water fight is a great way to get outside and pass the time on warm days.

18. Fly a kite

Flying a kite is a whole lot of fun – especially if you’ve made your own. Find an open outdoor space on a windy day and get soaring.

19. Make ice cream

No ice-cream machine? No problem. Making your own delicious dessert is easier than you might think. This tutorial shows you how in six easy steps.

20. Go backyard camping

Who says you have to book a campsite to enjoy a night under the stars? Pitch a tent in the yard and prepare all your best ghost stories for some family fun.

21. Paint self-portraits

Move over, stick figures – self-portraits are the new form of art taking over the space on the fridge.

22. Do a LEGO challenge

Maybe NASA needs a new rocket, or perhaps Cinderella is in the market for a new castle. Take turns coming up with fun ideas for builds.

23. Make a playdough family

Ever wondered how you’d look in playdough? Find out how your kids really see you with this fun family activity.

24. Make jewellery

You can buy DIY jewellery kits from your nearest craft or department store, or get creative using pipe cleaners, alfoil, string and uncooked macaroni.

25. Create with clay

Like playdough, but permanent. Make some funky bowls or cute animals out of clay from your local Bunnings or craft store.

26. Go digging for treasure

Hide some chocolate coins in the garden beds (wrapped and sealed, of course), hand your kids some shovels, and enjoy a cuppa.

27. Paint each other’s faces

This is a fun way to express your creativity and test your painting skills – just don’t forget to wash it off before getting the groceries.

28. Make shadow drawings

Toys and household objects can make some interesting shapes. Simply place the item in the sun so it casts a shadow onto paper, then trace.

29. Create nature masks

You don’t have to spend a fortune on craft supplies to make cool masks. Just head into your own backyard and you’re sure to find eye-catching leaves, bark and more to glue onto your paper mask.

30. Make potato prints

Cut a potato in half, carve in some shapes, cover the carved side in paint, and press onto paper.

31. Act out a scene from your favourite movie or book

Everyone has a scene that’s stuck with them for one reason or another. Dress up in your best makeshift costumes and perform it as a family.

32. Learn a magic trick

Kidspot has some great child-friendly magic tricks even kids with short attention spans will love to learn.

33. Create origami

Paper origami is a great indoor activity for kids. Try making traditional cranes or have some fun with cats and dogs.

34. Have a photography competition

Are you living with the next Annie Leibovitz? Give each family member a turn snapping pics on your phone to discover who has the best photography skills.

35. Visit a dog park

Even if you don’t have a dog, you can still have fun watching the pups play. Pick out your favourites together and try to guess what their names are.

36. Do an alphabet scavenger hunt

Can you find an object that starts with every letter of the alphabet in your home?

37. Create a dinosaur city

If your kids have toy dinosaurs, give them a Lost World of their own by making a dinosaur city out of rocks, sticks, dirt, and leaves from the backyard.

38. Make a racetrack through the house

Create an elaborate racetrack for toy cars by placing coloured electrical tape or masking tape on the floor throughout the house. Just be sure to pick the toys up when the fun is done to avoid any bruises.

39. Learn the alphabet in sign language

Some of our favourite things to do with kids involve learning something new. You’ll find plenty of tutorials for the AUSLAN alphabet online.

40. Learn a dance

This is a great way to have fun while tricking your kids into exercise. If your little ones are too young to learn choreography, just play their favourite tunes and have a freestyle boogie instead.

41. Make your family tree

Older kids might be especially interested to learn about their family history by making a family tree with you.

42. Create a family scrapbook

Print off all those photos on your phone and make a scrapbook you can look back at for years to come.

43. Make nail art

Nail art is a fun and creative way to kill time and express yourself. There are endless designs to bring some personality to your manicure, such as spots, hearts, ladybugs, watermelons, and more.

44. Play mini golf

Mini golf or putt putt is a challenging and exciting family activity for all ages. A little incentive goes a long way, so throw in a small prize if you want to make things more interesting.

45. Go on a road trip

Stuck in the house? Take a drive to a town you’ve never visited. Check out the main street, take some photos, and grab some lunch.

46. Make a time capsule

In an airtight box, add some journal entries and personal items that best summarise life right now. Open together in ten years (if you have the self-control to wait).

47. Swap lives

Kids will love dressing up in your clothes and impersonating your role in the house.

48. Go for a bike ride

An oldie but a goodie, bike rides are a great way to get outdoors with the family. Play I Spy while riding if you want to spice things up.

49. Go bowling

Another family favourite for competitive kids, ten-pin bowling is a fun way to spend a couple of hours out and about.

50. See a movie

When all else fails, head to the cinemas.

For more family fun, check out these 10 self-isolation activities for kids.

Study Results: How COVID-19 Workplace Changes Have Impacted Our Mental Health

Posted on June 12, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

The impacts of COVID-19 have been felt all around the world, and social distancing measures have changed every aspect of our lives.

Who would’ve thought a trip to the supermarket would become our most anticipated weekly adventure?

For many, the coronavirus has disrupted the way we work. Some of us have enjoyed these changes. Others have struggled.

New research collected through the Relationships Australia monthly survey has revealed just how significantly recent workplace changes have impacted our mental health.

“This research reveals that people from all aspects of the Australian workforce are feeling the effects of the COVID-19 workplace restrictions and changes,” says Relationships Australia National Executive Officer, Nick Tebbey.

You might be surprised by how your fellow Aussies have been coping.

Most of us are feeling it

With COVID-19’s unfathomable impacts on life as we knew it, it’s no surprise so many respondents reported big changes at work.

A whopping 87% reported a significant change to their workplace since the start of COVID-19.

And because change can be tricky at the best of times, let alone during a global pandemic, 63% of respondents agreed these workplace changes have impacted their mental health.

Those with previously good mental health have been hit harder

The study revealed that those who were living with poor mental health prior to the pandemic have experienced fewer changes to their mental health during the crisis than those who had good mental health.

Perhaps those with pre-existing mental health concerns had already acquired the skills to cope in uncertain or difficult situations, and certain mental illnesses may not be as impacted by situational stressors like the coronavirus.

We’re missing our workmates

Counting down the days until you can chat with Linda from accounting in the lunchroom again? Apparently a lot of Aussies are missing their colleagues thanks to COVID-19 disruptions.

“We are seeing that those who relied on their workplace for social stimulation are more affected by these changes,” states Nick.

The study found that respondents who considered their workplace as part of their social life were more likely to experience a change in their mental health as a result of recent changes to work.

75% of respondents who strongly agreed that their workplace was part of their social life experienced a change to their mental health, compared with only 35% of respondents who strongly disagreed that their workplace was part of their social life experiencing a change in their mental health.

Turns out those lunchroom chats could be doing more for some of us than just passing time (AKA procrastinating).

Every industry has been impacted

Different industries have seen different degrees of change to workplaces – but every industry has been hit in one way or another.

Between 74% and 98% of respondents across every industry reported ‘significant changes’ to their work since the coronavirus outbreak.

Employees reporting the greatest changes to mental health were in the arts and recreation (77% reporting changes) and education and training (73% reporting changes) industries.

The least impacted industries were financial and insurance services (55%) and information, media and telecommunications (58%).

Interestingly, industries with the highest rate of reported changes to their work reported the lowest rate of changes to their mental health.

Even minor workplace changes have changed our mental health

There was just a 1% difference in changes to mental health between those who had experienced significant changes at their workplace compared with those who hadn’t.

In both scenarios, 84-85% of respondents reported changes to their mental health as a result of recent shifts at their workplace.

This might imply that even small changes in the workplace can impact our mental health.

We’re here if you’re having a hard time coping or just need someone to talk to. Check out our specialised counselling services for more information.

Struggling to stay focused in your home office? You might find our 10 tips for working from home during COVID-19 helpful.

Interested to learn more about how coronavirus-related workplace changes have impacted our mental health? You can read the full study report here.

Are you nervous about returning to normal after COVID-19?

Posted on June 11, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

As restrictions are lifted and our freedom returns, some of us are surprised to find we’re not quite as excited for things to go back to ‘normal’ as we thought we’d be.

In fact, we’re feeling kind of anxious about life post-lockdown (and not just because we’ll need to wear shoes and sit in traffic again).

Maybe you’re concerned about your physical health. Maybe you’re worried about readjusting to a faster pace in your workplace. Or maybe you’re nervous about socialising after months of self-isolation.

Whatever your reasons for feeling nervous about society starting up again, it’s not unusual – and you’re not the only one.

We hope these tips help you ease back into life after lockdown.

Start Small and Take it Slow

Some people can’t wait to pour into pubs and kick-start their social calendars, but if that’s not you, that’s just fine. Give yourself time to get back to a life where you left the house and saw other humans.

Socialise slowly with just a few friends at a time. Visit quieter cafés and restaurants before hitting up the hot spots. Ask your employer if you can alternate days working from the office and from home.

We’ve been on lockdown for months, and it’s going to be a big adjustment to go back to normal life. So don’t feel pressured to jump right back into exactly how things were before.

Reflect on Your Experience

We’ve just been through a global pandemic, guys. Countries closed their borders, businesses and schools closed their doors, and visiting our friends and families was prohibited. Life as we knew it, and our plans for the year, were thrown out the window.

Instead of trying to slide straight back in your old life, allow yourself to reflect on this event. Talk to your friends and family about how it impacted you, what you found difficult, and any positives that came from it. Or write these things down in a journal to keep track of how you’re feeling.

Consider Your New Priorities

For some people, self-isolation was the catalyst for self-discovery. It forced us to pause and take stock of how we spent our time, energy, and money when things were ‘normal’.

Maybe you don’t miss the things you thought you would. Maybe you’d rather socialise in the outdoors than on a night out. Maybe you’ve realised how much you value alone time. Now’s the time to create new priorities and habits than align with the life you want to live moving forward.

Don’t Expect Everything to be ‘Normal’ Straight Away

There are plenty of ways things will remain different to how they were pre-coronavirus. We can probably expect queues, obsessive hand washing, and the 1.5m rule to follow us into the foreseeable future.

Stay vigilant and pay attention to health and safety advice. Follow the rules venues have in place for your safety, wash your hands regularly, and keep a safe distance from others when you’re out and about.

Talk About Your Fears

Literally everyone in the world has been impacted by this. If you’re feeling anxious or finding it hard to adapt to the latest lift in lockdown restrictions, chances are some of your friends, colleagues, family members, and neighbours are too.

The coronavirus is sure to be a key topic of conversation in many social circles for a while, and talking about your fears and concerns may help you understand and process things.

If you need some help coping, our tertiary-qualified counsellors can provide support. You can learn more about our confidential counselling options and how to book an appointment here.

Keep looking after yourself. Discover our tips to protect your emotional wellbeing during the coronavirus outbreak.

Let’s work together to protect older Queenslanders this Elder Abuse Awareness Day

Posted on June 10, 2020December 12, 2024 by admin

Now is the time to talk about elder abuse.

As communities across Australia begin the slow recovery from the COVID-19 pandemic, we all must recognise the increased risk that older members of our communities have faced, and continue to face, as a result of elder abuse.

Staff within our services here at Relationships Australia Queensland have reported an increase in requests for assistance from older Queenslanders at risk of, or experiencing, elder abuse. This is consistent with reports from other services and researchers both in Australia and overseas.

While support services are critical in assisting older people who are experiencing abuse, we also need to raise awareness of how we can all better protect and safeguard senior members of our communities to ensure they aren’t left without connections and support during the COVID-19 recovery.

With this year’s World Elder Abuse Awareness Day (WEAAD) coming up on Monday 15 June, we believe there is no better time for us to talk about elder abuse.

Let’s start by considering why and how elder abuse occurs.

Stress, hardship and relationship breakdown often lead to elder abuse

Elder abuse refers to any act that causes harm to an older person and is carried out in the context of a relationship of trust, such as a family member or friend.

Elder abuse is a highly complex issue with no clear single type of victim or perpetrator. It can take a range of forms including physical, financial, emotional, social and sexual, along with neglect. A person often experiences more than one form of abuse at a time.

Elder abuse can be intentional or unintentional. It can be easy to recognise and intervene, or it can be hidden in relationships for months or even years.

Some common factors that contribute to elder abuse include:

Ageism — Negative attitudes of older people result in discrimination or mistreatment.
Cohabitation — Elderly parents sharing living arrangements with adult children.
Vulnerability — Risk increases in those who are socially isolated, in poor health, dependant on others, and have infrequent access to formal care.
Inheritance impatience — A pre-emptive sense of ownership of an older person’s assets.

During COVID-19, we have seen a considerable number of people experiencing financial hardship. This can lead to disputes and sometimes breakdown in family relationships as a result of lending money, shared living arrangements and changing legal arrangements such as wills and enduring powers of attorney.

We know that financial abuse is the most commonly reported form of elder abuse, and this includes pressuring, threatening or coercing an older person to make decisions that aren’t in their best interests.

So what can we do to better safeguard older people from abuse?

Social connections are the key to prevent, recognise and respond to elder abuse

It is well known that one of the strongest protective factors in preventing older people from experiencing abuse is strong and regular social connections with their loved ones, friends, neighbours, care workers and with their wider community.

Each and every social interaction an older person has with someone else — whether it be a visit from a neighbour, a cup of tea with a friend, a visit to the doctor, or a trip to the store — is an opportunity to create supportive relationships and to recognise any early warning signs.

In the COVID-19 environment, physical distancing measures have meant that many of these opportunities for social connection have disappeared.

When many of us have gone online to replace our need for social connection, many older members of our communities don’t have the same access to or confidence in using technology.

Older people who were previously living independently in their own homes with the support of aged care services, their doctor, neighbours and relationships in their communities, are now vulnerable to elder abuse, and the opportunity for others to recognise and respond is less.

Ending elder abuse is everyone’s responsibility

As we approach this year’s World Elder Abuse Awareness Day on 15 June, we ask that you join us in recognising the importance of safeguarding older Queenslanders and taking steps to end elder abuse.

Here are a few of the ways you can help:

Take 15 minutes out of your day on Monday 15 June to have a conversation about elder abuse with a family member or friend, or with your colleagues at work.
Think about whether there’s anything you might be able to do to connect with older people, including your loved ones, neighbours or those you interact with in your work.
Learn about how to recognise the common warning signs of elder abuse, and how to take action if you suspect someone might be experiencing elder abuse.

For more information or to learn about what services are available through Relationships Australia Queensland, visit our website at https://www.raq.org.au/services/senior-relationship-services or call us on 1300 364 277.

If it’s an emergency and you believe that you or someone you know is currently unsafe, you should call 000.

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