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Response to Black Lives Matter from CEO Ian Law

I, along with millions around the world, have watched with dismay as racial tensions escalate globally and echo the calls for social, structural and systemic reform here in Australia.

Relationships Australia Queensland remains committed to reconciliation and our work with First Nations peoples.

We stand in solidarity with First Nations peoples in seeking peaceful resolution to address racism, and the social and structural imbalance of the system that they have inherited through colonisation.

We recognise First Nations peoples and support their right to self-determination.

Our work is focused on building respectful relationships where there is no place for violence.

Types of Anxiety

The word ‘anxiety’ is thrown around a lot these days. There are endless memes about anxiety circulating social media, and the topic is (thankfully) becoming less taboo in mainstream media.

We all feel anxious now and then – it’s a normal part of life. But having an anxiety disorder is a lot different to simply feeling anxious before a big presentation or going for a job interview.

Anxiety is the most common mental health condition in Australia. Research shows more than a quarter (28%) of young Aussies are living with anxiety, and the numbers continue to rise each year.

Some people may not realise ‘anxiety’ is an umbrella term that includes many different mental conditions. Knowing some of the common types of anxiety might help you better understand the differences between these mental illnesses.

 

Generalised Anxiety Disorder

Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) is characterised by excessive anxiety and worry in everyday situations where someone without this condition might not see a reason to feel anxious or worried.

People with GAD are anxious, worried, and have a feeling of dread that something bad will happen most of the time – not just when a stressful event provokes it. Seemingly small inconveniences like being late for an appointment can lead to uncontrollable and exaggerated worry. These feelings are intense, persistent, and can impact their everyday lives and relationships.

 

Social Anxiety Disorder

Social Anxiety Disorder (or social phobia) is more than just feeling nervous before giving a speech or being too shy to introduce yourself at an event.

This condition involves an intense fear of social situations – particularly situations that are unfamiliar or where you feel you’ll be watched or judged by others. People with social anxiety might feel excessively self-conscious in everyday social situations, and have intense anxiety for a long period of time leading up to a social event.

Some triggers of social anxiety might include meeting new people, speaking up in a meeting at work, going on a date, or using public restrooms. Some people with this disorder go to great lengths to avoid social situations, which can have a significant impact on their life.

 

Panic Disorder

Panic Disorder involves repeated, unexpected, and disabling panic attacks that aren’t always caused by a specific situation. Panic attacks might happen without any warning or trigger, and can involve hyperventilation, racing heart, shaking, dizziness, and fear of death.

People with a panic disorder often worry about having their next panic attack, and might even avoid places where they’ve had a panic attack in the past out of fear it might trigger another one.

 

Agoraphobia

You might have heard this term being used to describe someone who is afraid to leave their home, but that’s a common misconception. Agoraphobia isn’t just a fear of leaving the house – it’s a fear of situations and places that might make you have a panic attack or feel stressed, trapped, or embarrassed. It can be a result/complication of a panic disorder.

People with agoraphobia might be scared to leave their home or leave their home on their own, be in a crowd or waiting in a queue, use public transport, visit enclosed spaces like movie theatres or small shops, or visit open spaces like a car park or shopping centre.

 

Specific Phobias

While it’s not unusual to be afraid of certain things like snakes, heights, or flying on a plane, people with a phobia experience feelings of panic and terror that others might consider irrational and out of proportion to the threat. Many people with a phobia even recognise that their anxious response is exaggerated, but can’t help it. Research shows specific phobias generally develop in childhood and are twice as likely to be diagnosed in women compared to men.

A specific phobia might be related to animals or insects, thunder or heights, blood or needles, bridges or driving, and just about anything else you can think of that is subjectively unpleasant (or seemingly ordinary). Some people with specific phobias experience related panic attacks and generally avoid situations where they may be faced with the phobic stimulus.

 

These are just some of the different types of anxiety. There are many other mental health conditions where anxiety is present, including Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

Many people with other mental health conditions also experience anxiety, and people with an anxiety disorder often experience other conditions, such as depression.

Our tertiary-qualified counsellors are experienced in supporting people with anxiety and other mental illness. Learn more about our counselling options and how to book an appointment here.

 

If you’re living with anxiety, you might find this advice from one of our counsellors helpful.

What is Mediation?

Mediation can be a great way to help two or more people in conflict agree on a mutually acceptable solution.

It might be useful for neighbours disputing over a fence, an employer and employee resolving an issue in the workplace, or helping separated families divide property and/or agree on childcare arrangements.

But what exactly does a mediator do? And how does mediation help?

Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) Practitioner Tara Roberts and FDR Clinical Supervisor and Conflict Coach John Cleary shed some light on family mediation and dispute resolution here.

 

Who uses mediation?

As we touched on above, mediation can be used in a wide range of settings and situations. In this article, we’ll be focusing on family dispute resolution.

Family mediation or dispute resolution is available to anyone who is separating or has separated, including those in de facto or same-sex relationships, and those with or without children.

Mediation can help each party respectfully negotiate issues around parenting, property, finances and more to reach agreements that work for everyone.

 

How does mediation work?

The process is tailored to suit the needs of each party, but it generally starts with an individual intake session to determine whether mediation is a suitable solution.

“After a pretty thorough intake, clients can expect that a mediator will introduce them safely into a structured, problem-solving conversation,” John explains.

“That means that the clients will build an agenda together, artfully shaped by the mediator to maximise its potency. They’ll spend two or three hours per session working through that agenda, considering the problems that sit under each question, and developing ideas for managing the issues better. Then, they will hopefully arrive at some self-authored and mutually understood agreements.”

These sessions normally take two to three hours, and it’s not unusual to require more than one session. You also have the option to discuss with your mediator how the agreements reached can be made legally binding.

 

What does a mediator do?

A mediator acts as a neutral third party to help people in a dispute come to an agreement. Tara explains that the mediator facilitates a discussion that is future-focused and child-focused.

“We aren’t there to make decisions on behalf of the clients,” she says. “We are there to monitor and keep the conversation respectful and about the children. We attempt to move clients from their positions to their interest, from their past to their future, and to their shared goal – which would be their child/ren.”

 

How does mediation help?

This service has many benefits, including:

  • Private and confidential
  • Takes place in a safe and neutral environment
  • Supports positive decision-making
  • Solutions are negotiated and self-determined
  • Builds problem-solving and conflict management skills
  • Can encourage cooperation and improve communication between parties.

“Mediation can help in a number of ways,” Tara says.

“It’s a future-focused discussion which can be helpful when there is a lot of emotion around. It can also be a slow process with minimum of three steps – but that’s a good thing, because we want to prepare our clients and give them lots of resources and child development information.”

John adds that mediation can be extremely beneficial for children of separating parents.

“The benefits to the children of the relationship are probably immeasurable,” he says. “In so many studies, the common sentiment of children involved in separation is for parents to stop fighting and to leave them out of adult issues. Children know best in these matters but are our uncounted customers.”

 

You can learn more about our Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) program here, or call us on 1300 364 277 for help finding the right service for your circumstances.