Signs of Being Humbugged in First Nations Elders

Humbugging is when a person makes unreasonable demands from a family member.

First Nations Elders can become vulnerable to humbugging as a form of financial elder abuse.

Here are some signs of being humbugged as a form of elder abuse, and some tips to protect yourself as an Elder, or protect your Elders.

Why does humbugging happen?

First Nations Families may struggle with the financial demands of living in colonised Australia, where employment opportunities and other pressures impact family life.

Some individuals and families may not have learned the skills of managing on a tight budget. They may turn to risky means, like borrowing or taking from Elders who have a limited income.

When does humbugging become financial elder abuse?

Humbugging may be difficult to spot when it is done against older people, especially when it is between a parent and child.

Humbugging can become financial elder abuse when there are threats, theft, or other types of abuse involved.

Humbugging behaviours

Signs of humbugging as financial elder abuse may include:

• Demanding money
• Only visiting around payday
• Not returning “borrowed” money
• Paying for things with your money
• Forcing you to sign up for a credit card
• Overstaying their welcome in your home
• Forcing you to claim government benefits
• Taking control of your money or your property
• Taking advantage of the relationship by not repaying.

Protecting yourself from humbugging

An Elder may feel confused about handing over money, because they may have grown up in poverty and they do not want to see their family members experience that, too.

However, protecting your money will help you to protect yourself.

You can protect your money from humbugging by:

• Prioritising yourself when budgeting
• Checking your bank statements regularly
• Not sharing your PIN codes to your bank cards
• Not letting others know your payment schedule
• Setting up a savings account that cannot easily be accessed when shopping or at the ATM.

How to get help

There is no shame in asking for help.

First Nations Peoples are welcome in our service, and we are happy to help. The Elder Abuse Prevention and Support Service provides free, confidential, and culturally safe support for older Queenslanders who may be experiencing elder abuse.

If you or an older person you know may be a victim of elder abuse, our experienced counsellors are here to help. We can help you explore your concerns and possible solutions in a safe and supportive environment.

You can learn more about our Elder Abuse Prevention and Support Service here, or call 1300 063 232.

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