How to Reconnect After a Relationship Break

Not all breaks end in a breakup. In some situations, taking a break can be the healthiest step forward for a relationship.

Breaks can be an opportunity to reflect on what’s not working and gain clarity on your needs and expectations.

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to reconnecting after a relationship break, but we hope this advice helps you move forward with respect and understanding.

Address Past Issues

It can be tempting to get swept up in the romance of reconnecting, but whatever you do, don’t sweep your issues under the rug.

There’s a reason you took a break, and these concerns need to be addressed if you want a happier, healthier, lasting relationship.

Take the time to discuss the issue/s leading to the relationship break, and make space for each other to share your perspectives. Discuss what you learnt during your break and how you’d like things to change moving forward.

It can take a lot of work to avoid falling back into old patterns, so it’s important you both take accountability and commit to your new goals and expectations.

While talking about the past can be painful, these conversations can bring you closer and improve your ability to navigate tough topics together – crucial skills for a healthy partnership.

We offer some great practical tips to have a difficult conversation here.

Forgive Each Other

Holding on to resentment and anger for past mistakes is not a healthy place to restart your relationship.

If you can’t forgive your partner or trust they’ll commit to making positive changes, consider whether you really want to continue the relationship or not.

There’s no time limit on your relationship break. If you’re still feeling hurt and need more time to process the problems and whether you can move past them, let your partner know.

Talking to a counsellor can help you explore your feelings and concerns in a safe, non-judgemental space.

Counselling is a great option if you’re feeling stuck or need an outside perspective. Our counsellors won’t tell you what to do, but they will help you gain clarity on what you feel is best for you.

Rekindle the Love

Once you’ve resolved your issues and agreed on how you want your relationship to look this time around, you can focus on rekindling the romance.

Put in some extra effort for:

• Quality time – Chances are you missed each other during your time apart, so now’s the time to enjoy each other’s company with quality time. Booking in a weekly screen-free date night can be a great way to encourage conversation and connection.
• Flirting – Just because it’s not a new relationship doesn’t mean it doesn’t deserve the same flirtation and fun as the first time around. Make your partner feel special with plenty of compliments, affection, and thoughtful touches like love notes.
• Check-ins – Make time to check in with how you’re both feeling in your relationship and if there are any areas that need more attention. Having regular open, honest conversations will help build intimacy and avoid issues building up.

We offer counselling for individuals and couples going through changes or tough times.

Talking to a counsellor can help you work through things in a supportive environment. This can be especially helpful if you and your partner struggle with communication.

You can call 1300 364 277 to make an appointment or learn more about our counselling services here.

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