Although this is an excuse often used by abusers, it is simply not true. The use of power and control over another person is not as a result of losing control, it is a deliberate behaviour or series of behaviours, put in place to gain control over another person. Domestic violence occurs when someone decides to use physical, sexual, emotional, social and/or spiritual abuse to get their way. Actions are as a result of choices and choices are often made after careful consideration of the other person’s weaknesses and trigger points and the manner in which the abuser can most effectively manipulate these.
